CaRant: Love

Somethings are rant worthy, some aren't. Put a Ca in front and you get CaRant: a rant that is done by Calamansi. There are times when my opinions get too strong and manifest into complete essays, but words sometimes fail me and I'm left with a made up word to describe my feelings. Let's expand upon what really goes on when I calag or carage or even better, CaRant.



Love is something beautiful, but it perplexes me that people don't see it as something beautiful and abuse it. Needless to say, I will be discussing some truths about long distance relationships and games, but also the brighter side of things.

When people start a relationship with a person they met through a game, they better have good reason other than a fling. People who couple with another in a sign of friendship don't count, I'm talking about full blown "I love you" crap. The moment you agree to start a romantic relationship with someone, you better be aware that there's a person beyond those pixels that will take the relationship seriously and there's more to pressing a few buttons in being in a long distance relationship. Because that's what online dating is most of the time: long distance relationships.

I can tell you from experience that long distance relationships are some of the grueling, cruel, torturous things that can ever be invented, but if you share that suffering with someone you know is worth it, then the pain disappears and all you have is pure love. When you are young, long distance relationships can be just dreams that will never be reality. Someone has to buy an expensive plane ticket to see the other or vice versa. Where would I stay? If I stay at their house, their parents would flip. What would we do? We can't sit and play LaTale like we would do. What if they are not the one?

But in actuality, no matter the distance, there will be pain and suffering. There will be longing, there will be despair, but the most important thing that should drive your relationship is love. Not love between two pixels that exist on a screen, but between two people who can say "I love you."

But what REALLY pisses me off are the people who either sees their significant other as an object, collection of pixels or not a real person or people who don't have the balls to open up to their significant other through webcam, pictures, calling, ect. These two things just defies the point of being in love. Just absolutely, positively defies everythinggggggggggggg and it pisses me of so much to see these types of people with such wonderful partners that put up with that crap.

I keep on stressing that every person with a character is a person in real life with emotions, wants, needs and dreams that have yet to be fulfilled. Each person has potential to be something and has the right to be with somebody, but when you just see them as a picture or object, then you're missing the point. Did you fall in love with a picture or the material benefits of being with that person? Being in a relationship is a two way street; you need to do your part or risk being ran over. You need to be able to put up with the demands of your partner as a person, not pixels or part of a game. They aren't just the person you grind with on the weekends, they are the person you have to spend time with outside of your gaming activities. May it be actually in the game, just idly talking, is fine, but there has to be a threshold where too much is too much and the needs of your partner have not been met.

But when you refuse to share things about your personal life to your partner, the person that you should trust with your life, then I don't know what your problem is. Yes, at first, you will be tentative about showing the real you to your partner. Will they think I'm adequate? Will they think of me differently? Will this change how they see me? If the person you are currently with loves you with all their heart, then why should you worry? It is a blessing to learn more about your partner because it brings you closer to them and forges a bond that only the two of you can share. But when you refuse to send them pictures of yourself, talk on skype, webcam, those sorts of things, what is the point of being with your partner? You obviously are too inept to be around them and to consider them seriously.

Overall, my point is that people are creatures made for love and it can be beautiful, but if your views are twisted and dysfunctional, you are only causing pain and suffering to yourself or your partner. It can be a harsh truth, but all is fair in love and war.

But let's call it a night and wait for our next adventure.